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To some people family means everything to them! Having the same blood however   Isn't the only thing that makes you "family". Growing up my dad had us meet his mother once that I remember. He was adopted by the cole family. His father died before I could ever meet him. My dad rarely speaks about his biological family. I couldn't tell you a thing about them. But if you asked me about the cole family I could tell you stories! My family has always consisted of blood/half and no blood relation. But when people ask I don't pour it out to everyone. I don't introduce them as half or step or whatever names they have come up with. Only because they are my family.I do let people know how things were growing up and how we became a family but thats as far as it needs to go. They are who I was raised with! They call me and message me and care for me just like any other family. If I have a bad day or just need someone to talk to I know I can call my aunt nanny and she doesn't hesitate to be there for me! 

I don't think we should get treated differently or treat people differently just because they are not blood relation!! I know I have said this over and over again  but I strongly feel that no matter how you become a family you should be treated like a family!! I sit here and look at Boston and watch myself get protective of her and not want to share her. I want to make sure I'm the one that changes her or does her hair or picks out her clothes. It's so crazy to me that I am this way that I have to remind myself to clam down. I know she isn't mine I know she is my "step daughter" but the way she makes me feel when she hugs me or gives me a kiss makes me a little too motherly. When people ask I hate saying she is my step daughter just because I don't see it that way! No, I am not going to steal her or make her call me mother. I'm not going to force her to like me if she grows up to dislike me. I'm not going to say I'm her mother but I hope one day she can come to me for things or see me as a mother figure in her life. I hope that she will enjoy spending time with her future siblings. I know things aren't easy and life doesn't always work out the way we want, but I have high hopes that she can see me as family like I see her as mine! 

We may only have her for a week at a time but I promise you we take in every moment of her and adore it! We had family pictures again tonight! She was the center of attention like always!!❤❤ 

Much love, Tonya