Love is worth any battle

So my good friend Mike  and I were catching up today  you know talking about girls,dating,life and how we will look when we are 40 and I started to tell him how some things in marriage can be a little hard at times. He always knows how to say things and just the right time to say them, He said "but love is worth any battle right?" He couldnt be more right about that. I have also been reading some books that have helped me handle situations in my marriage better. I like learning new ways to understand my husband, lets be honest I need all the help I can get to understand how Michael works.

I have had one marriage go wrong. I wont say what happened because I do not need to talk about it; its not important in my life. I will say I am really okay with the fact that I am not good friends with my ex. He is my ex for a reason. I still keep in contact with his extended family. I talk to his cousins and some aunts. they are still my family because they are good people and have known me long before my past marriage. Am I a bad person because I no longer talk with my ex? NO. I have a future to think about not my past. I have Micahel now and He is what matters to me. I however have learned so much about myself going through a divorce at such a young age. I have grown and matured a lot through my struggles

I use to think my marriage to Michael would be a breeze, because I had learned so much from my past mistakes! WOW was I wrong. I am almost 22 and have finally learned all men are different. Michael is like someone I have never met before he eats differently, walks his own cute way, talks different. Has different hobbies. Shows affection in his own special way. Michael is all around nothing like what I have known.

I have learned to see that Michael and I may not have found each other at the best time but found each other when it was right for us. I sometimes find myself thinking what it would be like if we had met a year or so earlier or even in high school would we have dated? Probably not I was a bratty cheerleader who thought I walked on water. And Michael was a cute little red head. I am so happy Michael and I met when we did because each battle we face is just another notch we get to add to our belt as one won. Michael and I may fight over who gets to sit where on the couch or who is going to rub who's feet first or argue about money and life and how we want to live our life. At the end of each argument we are holding each other tighter and fall a little more in love that to me is winning. We have been married seven months now and are no where near close to having each other figured out. But we continue to grow and move forward in our marriage. I hope this little post helps the other young couples feel like they are not alone. Being a newlywed is full of joy and love and most of all LEARNING and UNDERSTANDING.

Much Love, Tonya