Michael & Tonya Elgan: My views on life.

There is a saying I read that I loved. " I never make the same mistake twice I make it like five or six times, you know just to make sure". I have never been one to keep grudges. The longest time I spent holding a grudge was two years with my sister and the whole time I wanted to make up with her. Because the fight we got into on my wedding day wasn't worth it. I have learned that who you were doesn't have to be who you are. Which I believe goes towards everyone. So this is what I think even though there are people I don't like and I don't like what they continue to do. I have to think what's the point of beating a dead horse. Whats the point letting things that you can't change define how you do things in life? I use to think I have so many regrets. So many things I wish I could take back. If I had the chance to go back in time and do it all over again I would. But now that I have gone through much in my life I have come to see that I don't want to take back the choices I have made. I would love to take back how I have treated people. I will just continue to treat people better and be as classy as I can.

Here is a list of things I use to regret..

*Dropping out of High school at 17 and getting married. I don't regret this anymore because I have learned to compromise and think of others. I have learned that just because its over doesn't mean my life is over. I have gained greater respect for myself and what I deserve. I have learned a bad relationship is like tearing of a bandaid. I have learned Im better than I use to be..

*Drinking to much. I use to be ashamed about drinking and try to cover it up from family and friends that didn't drink. But I look back to how much I learned from drinking and how much damage came from the choice I made while I was drunk. Once again if I hadn't experienced what it was like to be that way I wouldn't be able to know my limits and I think everyone needs to learn limits.

This list is so small but if you have known me or taken the time to think about what I just said you will see how huge those are in my life. Those choices I made back then I let define me. I let control my every decision. Who I thought I was good enough to date. Or anything like that. I based my life on thinking it was one huge mistake. When I look at my life now I thank the heavens everyday for the things I chose to do. If it wasn't for those so called mistakes I would not be happily married I would not be the care free person I am today. I would not be willing or even able to deal with what I have to everyday. I look at life as a learning experience.

---Someone I went to High School with wrote about me and how people viewed me! I really wanted to share this so that way people could see how far I've come and how see that how certain people view me. And Honestly I hope it lets people get to know me a little bit better I could write about how I use to be but I think its better to have someone do it for me. After all this is my blog and I can write about whatever I want. :)

Tonya was always one of those girls that everybody wanted to be friends with. She had everything, good looks, perfect body and always had the cutest clothes. She and I hung out almost every day and I loved being around her. Tonya was a ditz. But most everyone loved her for it. Sometimes I thought she did it just to be cute but honestly that’s just Tonya. Tonya could be a complete bitch if she wanted to and she always knew what to say to completely shatter any confidence you had. You never got on Tonya’s bad side. I did, I didn’t really care what Tonya said and most of the time I would call her out on her shit. She always wanted the materialistic things in life and never seemed to care about feelings. But once you got to know Tonya you found out that she really did care about you she has just had a few rough times in her life that made her cold and I feel like she was afraid to let people in.
In the past few years she and I lost contact, she said and did things that made me want nothing to do with her. I didn’t like the jerk she was married to at the time and didn’t care if we ever talked again because she was just the girl that only cared about her looks and herself. This past year Tonya got back into contact with me and I knew instantly that she was going through a rough time but also was about to start a completely awesome new journey in her life. She was a totally different person. I had the opportunity to go to her wedding and see just how much she really had changed. Everything was simple, yet elegant she didn’t have to have the biggest and the best and she was genuinely nice; to everyone! Her husband seemed (I didn’t really get to know him well) like he would treat her the way she deserves to be treated. And reading the posts about him I know he will be good to her. She has definitely turned a new page in her life and I look forward to seeing her mature. I know she will be a fantastic wife and a loving caring step mother. I know she will love her step daughter in the way that little girl needs to be loved and will be that little girl’s best friend.

I was addicted to my phone at a very young age :)

Made life long friends!

Calm down This is what happens when you forget about a registration ticket in Utah they book you in jail and then release you right after.. LESSON LEARNED ALWAYS PAY YOUR TICKETS!!! Michael thought it was so funny.